Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.
Endurance is nobler than strength, and patience than beauty.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience,
but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
~Martin Luther King, Jr.
Definition of a hero
he∑ro Pronunciation Key (hÓro) n. pl. he∑roes
1. In mythology and legend, a person, often of divine ancestry, who is endowed
with great courage and strength, celebrated for their bold exploits, and
favored by the gods.
2. A person noted for feats of courage or nobility of purpose, especially one who has risked or sacrificed his or her life.
Thursday, August 11, 2011 Volume 3, Issue 36
Our primary focus is our own recovery and rebuilding our own lives. We will lead by example and not interfere with another's recovery.
|Co-Occuring Disorders and the 12 Steps|
Following the Twelve Steps can be uniquely challenging for people with co-occurring mental health and substance use disorders. From mixed messages about medication and treatment, to dealing with emotions that arise from working the Steps, Marya Hornbacher provides practical guidance for approaching sanity and sobriety.
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable.
I don't know which was the stranger, more terrifying moment: the moment when a psychiatrist told me I had a mental illness, or the moment I realized I was an alcoholic, through and through. I remember both moments clearly: my stomach dropped, the room seemed cold, and I wanted to run for the door. When it came time for me to face facts, I didn't do it. Not that first time. The fear that accompanied those simple facts--that I have a mental illness, that I am an alcoholic--was so overwhelming that I did what fear told me to do: I hid.
Addicts are good at hiding--for a while. We've turned it into an art form. We hide from our families, our friends, our employers; some of us feel we are hiding from God. We are capable of believing the ridiculous notion that no one can see what's really going on. No one really knows how sad and sick and dependent we are. People with mental illness often share this skill at hiding. The world we live in tells us that mental illness is something to be ashamed of, and heaven knows we feel that shame--and we do all we can to hide our illness from that judging world, from our fellows, and often from ourselves.
So by the time we addicts or alcoholics with mental illness have reached a place of complete defeat--by the time we realize that our lives have become unmanageable--we are living under so many layers of shame, deception, denial, and fear that it seems at first impossible to dig ourselves out. We are used to the dark, lonely place where we've lived for so long. We're used to the company of our substance of choice, the comfort of our habitual terror, the pain of our mental illness. These things are more familiar than what the Twelve Steps promise: a life in a community of people who have found a better way to live. To the practicing addict with mental illness, a life up there in the light seems almost as frightening as a life down here in her own private hell.
But we must reach for that life if we want to survive.
Addicts, mentally ill or not, must all come to a turning point where they recognize that there is no future ahead on the road they're walking, and realize that it's time for them to turn down a new road. That moment of realization is rarely a calm one. It often takes hitting the wall pretty hard--often more than once--before we see the futility of trying to live the way we were. From the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions: "We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength."
And that is where we're headed when we set out with Step One: toward liberation and strength.
When I first came into the program, I found the idea of admitting defeat insane. I already felt defeated, by my illness, by my addiction, by my entire life. Why were these people asking me to go one step further and admit complete defeat--admit, in short, that I was wholly and completely powerless? I insisted that I would get sober anyway, whether I admitted powerlessness or not. Couldn't I just hang on to some sense of control over my life? The answer my sponsor gave me was a resounding no.
When I was first faced with the need to admit powerlessness, I told my sponsor she didn't understand mental illness--if she understood the horrible feeling of being literally out of control of one's own mind, she would never try to make me feel even less power than I already did. I believed, at first, that Step One would be impossible for me. I believed my mental illness would make it too painful. I believed it would be too excruciating, too terrifying, to admit total powerlessness over my addiction and over my life when I already felt so terribly helpless.
But I have come to see this differently. I have come to see the First Step as one that my mental illness allows me to understand with particular clarity. I began to apply what I know about mental illness to what I was learning about addiction, and I began to listen to what I was being told about how addiction could be overcome.
Who knows better than we do a true sense of helplessness over the body and mind? Our mental illnesses do not define us, but they are part of the very bodies we live in and part of the very makeup of our minds. My mental illness is inscribed on my genes and expressed in my very thoughts-it's that close to me. Working the Twelve Steps, I began to learn that addiction is an illness of body and mind as well. It is defined as a mental illness in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, a compendium of psychiatric diagnoses that lists and defines them. It is an allergy of the body that manifests itself as an obsession of the mind. It is passed through families in the genes, just as other mental illnesses are. People who suffer from addiction are physically different from people who do not; our bodies respond to certain substances and behaviors differently than do healthy, nonaddicted bodies.
Excerpted from Sane: Mental Illness, Addiction, and the 12 Steps by Marya Hornbacher. In addition to her international best seller, Madness: A Bipolar Life, Marya Hornbacher is the author of Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia, a novel The Center of Winter, and her newest book Waiting: A Nonbeliever's Higher Power.
Long-Term Success Sober Living Program
The HERO House, a leading provider of recovery services for college students in early sobriety announces a new program. Starting today, The HERO House will begin offering the Long-Term Success Sober Living for college students with a minimum of 9 months in continuous sobriety, 12 months preferred.
This will be a community of students in recovery, sharing life experiences and helping each other suststain long term, quality sobriety and a manner of living that will make them outstanding contributors to our society.
∑ Monthly Recovery Coaching session
∑ Academic Support as needed
∑ Weekly Drug screening
∑ Optional participation in Morning Reflection
∑ Optional participation in Weekly Program
∑ Optional participation in Weekly activities
∑ Monthly reports to families on progress
∑ Responsive system of support when there are indicators associated with the relapse process
Double Occupancy Bedroom in sober house, with wireless internet, cable tv and all other utilities
Cost: $850 per month
For more information or an application, contact Kelly Moselle at Kelly@herohouse.com
If you depend on some particular thing, or person, or situation for your happiness and fulfillment, you're setting yourself up for problems. When you depend on what you cannot control, you open the door to fear, anxiety, disappointment and other negative experiences.~Ralph Marston
However, the world outside of you can indeed provide your life with great richness. So although you don't want to be dependent on it, you don't want to ignore it either.
A powerful way to end dependence is with acceptance. Instead of depending on what you cannot control, peacefully accept and celebrate the goodness in whatever comes your way.
By choosing to accept life as it is, you can benefit from its richness without being imprisoned by dependence. Acceptance puts you in control of your own happiness and fulfillment.
Acceptance frees you to enjoy each moment for what it is, without being burdened by worries about what might or might not come next. Acceptance enables you to be more responsible and effective in following your own uniquely beautiful path to fulfillment.
Accept life's richness in all its many forms, and gently let go of the dependence that would bring you down. End your dependence, and free yourself to live with authentic joy and fulfillment.
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A calm mind fosters clear seeing, which is another way of saying that if we practice mindfulness, we will have less self-deception. We learn to be honest, and delusions fall away. When we sit in meditation, we observe our mind, watching the thoughts pass through, all the mental traffic honking, swerving, and cutting in. We practice holding "bare attention" toward the thoughts and feelings that arise, accepting them with kindness and non-judgment.
--from Mindfulness and the 12 Steps
Upcoming Events in Atlanta
August 12-14, 2011
All Friday and Saturday activities will be at House 4 - 1780 Timberlake Road, Kennesaw, GA 30144
*All Residents attend these sessions
Friday, August 12
7:15 pm Desserts and Coffee
Welcome to the weekend
8:00 pm Graduation Ceremony*
Family members and friends of Alex M., Ian W. and Preston L. are invited to attend. All HEROes will attend this event
Saturday, August 13
8:30 am Coffee and Pastries/Welcome
Kelly Moselle, Program Director
9:00 am-9:30 am Introductions of Staff and Families
9:30 am-10:00 am The Difference between Sobriety and Recovery
Randy Haveson, Founder and CEO of The HERO House
10:00 am - 12:00 pm The Science Of Addiction and Recovery
George S. Braucht, LPC; Brauchtworks Consultation & Training
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm Lunch*
1:00 pm-2:15 pm A Personal Testimony*
2:30 pm-3:30 pm Interpersonal Communication Skills*
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
Who Owns the Zebra
Kelly Moselle, Director, Atlanta Campus
3:30 pm - 5:30 pm Graduation Ceremony*
Family members and friends of Erica B. and Kaitlynn B. are invited to attend.
All HEROes will attend this event
5:30 pm Wrap-Up and Evaluations
6:00 pm and on Dinner and Evening on your own
Sunday, August 14
Open for individual meetings with Staff, schedule with us during the weekend.
*4th Annual GARR Recovery Fair
Friday, September 30
The Georgia Association of Recovery Residences has announced that Ms. Shannon Taitt, Partners for Recovery Coordinator at the Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, SAMHSA will be our Keynote Speaker at the 4th Annual GARR Recovery Fair this September. She will discuss the Recovery Support Services Strategic Initiative as part of SAMHSA's mission to reduce the impact of substance abuse and mental illness on America's communities. SAMHSA is part of the US Department of Health and Human Services.
Friday, September 30, 2011
8:00 - 9:00 am Check-In (Exhibits should be set up by 8:30 am)
8:30 am Continental Breakfast
9:00 am - 10:00 am Networking
10:00 am - 10:50 am Roundtable 1 (Options Available)
11:00 am - 12:00 Noon Roundtable 2 (Options Available)
12:00 Noon - 1:00 pm Lunch (provided)
1:00 pm - 4:00 pm Keynote Program
∑ Sponsor Presentations
∑ Keynote Address, Shannon Taitt
Partners for Recovery Coordinator
Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, SAMHSA
∑ GARR Awards
4:00 pm - 5:00 pm Open Exhibits & Networking
Cost of Registration as an Attendee is:
$65 - GARR Member
$80 - Non-GARR Member
Cost of Registration as an Exhibitor is:
(Includes one 6-foot table and 1 Attendee Registration)
$75 - GARR Member
$100 - Non-GARR Member
You may now register online at http://www.garronline.org/recoveryfair.html
Recovery Fair Location:
Marietta Conference Center
500 Powder Springs St SW
Marietta, GA 30064
"Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn't know that so it goes on flying anyway."
~Mary Kay Ash
Run for Recovery 5k - Saturday, September 10 @ 8:30 am
About The HERO House
The HERO House is a recovery residence for college students in early sobriety. We serve men and women in separate residences, based upon Peer-to-Peer Recovery Support, grounded in the 12-Step process. The HERO House is a community of students in recovery, sharing life experiences and helping each other achieve long term, quality sobriety and a manner of living that will make them outstanding contributors to our society.
Additionally, at the Higher Education Recovery Option, we work with students to return to school and to find the tools necessary to be successful while sober, on a college campus. We tell residents at intake that our program is typically a one-year program; however, we recognize some residents will finish early and some will need additional time. To successfully complete our program, residents need to complete a 12-Step Program, successfully complete one full-time semester of college, and to advance through all four of our levels of competency at The HERO House.